Wednesday, January 26, 2011

Parties - Tiki Party (social stationary)

Mad About ... Parties


(This is a continuation of the Tiki Party post. I decided to break it up into several posts to make it a little more manageable. The original post was dated December 14 and can, quickly, be found in Labels under "Parties.")



Invitations
Depending on how formal your gathering is, you might want to forgo the actual stationary and visit a website like evite.com. They offer thousands of designs for any occasion. Make sure you give as much information as you can; some people like to put out an RSVP invitation and then give the location/direction once they have a head count. It's a good way to weed out party crashers and flaky people. Facebook is another great way to reach out to people, though I suggest using that for smaller informal gatherings or big casual gatherings, when you need to reach lots of people.
Paper invitations are a great option. They can be elegant and classy, reserved for the most special of occasions. Or you can design and print them up at home. It's a nice personal touch, but not necessary; with technology so a part of our day-to-day life, the email invite is hardly considered tacky. But keep the tangible invitation in mind - it could be a fun touch.

Thank You Notes
I think "Thank You Notes" are a lovely touch that has, sadly, fallen out of fashion. It's such a personal touch and, these days, people are pleasantly surprised by them. You can by blank "Thank You" cards at most stores, like Target. You don't need to get anything super fancy - though if you did, it wouldn't be the worst thing ever. Just a simple "thanks" and a small notation is more than enough.

Parties - Tiki Party (decorations)

Mad About ... Parties 


(This is a continuation of the Tiki Party post. I decided to break it up into several posts to make it a little more manageable. The original post was dated December 14 and can, quickly, be found in Labels under "Parties.") 



Decorations
You don't have to sacrifice fun just because your budget is small. One of the easiest ways to get more bang for your buck is to pick one kind of decoration and spend most of your budget on that. Flowers, balloons, streamers, etc. will take center stage. And remember that you are decorating with all of your supplies, too.
Centerpieces (optional)

I am a big fan of centerpieces because they capture the theme of your party and condense it into one explosion of color and design. You can have one big centerpiece and then a few smaller variations strategically set around your space. Centerpieces don't just have to be flowers! You can use fruit, rocks, jewels, etc. to make a statement. And don't forget the vessel it's in either; find an interesting vase, bowl, etc. to display. And, if you like, you can send them home with some of your guests - it's a nice gesture.

Room decor (cutouts, streamers, banners) (optional)
These could best be called accessories. I love accessories. You may already have fun little accents laying about the house or you may have found something when you were shopping - elaborate on that. But be frugal; the best rule to keep in mind is simple is chic. There are cases for excess - the aforementioned "Tiki party" is one. Just remember that if you go crazy it's going to come off as kitschy; if that's not what you were going for, scale it back a little.

Balloons (optional)
These are optional but they do add a nice touch. You can go big and make a balloon archway, or just bundle a few and strategically place them around your space. Balloons are great for backyard parties and they add a splash of color to any occasion. Plus, they are deliciously retro - I can't think of one movie from the 80's where the prom scene didn't have hundreds of balloons.

Outdoor (yard signs, banners, etc.) (optional)
Yard signs and banners are best if you're having a big theme party and want to let people know where your location is. They can be posted in your front yard or on the door; or, if you are at a park or the beach, post a sign at the entrance of the parking lot and pin up your banner at the actual location. Balloons would work well here, of course. It's important that you make sure your sign and banner is eye catching; if you have a very specific theme, make sure that it shows.

Candles
Warm lighting is flattering lighting. Of course, if your party is during the day then you may not want to bother. Candles are versatile - you can float them in a swimming pool, use them in Chinese lanterns, place them in your centerpieces, etc. I don't really suggest burning scented candles - it can over-power the food you're serving and some people may be put off by the fragrances. I'm going to group torches in here; torches don't have to be regulated to just Tiki themes - they are all purpose and make a fun addition to any backyard space. Try to pick up torches that have bug repellent in them - same goes for out door candles.

Confetti (optional)
Sure, it's seems silly (and it can kind of be a bitch to clean up) but confetti is really fun. Strew it around, on your buffet and the bar, on a coffee table or tables where people will be sitting. A Christmas party would be even more fun with white "snow" confetti. And sparkly gold and silver confetti on New Year's Eve? Give everyone a handful at midnight and enjoy. Confetti is pretty cheap and you can even make it at home. Give it a try!

Parties - Tiki Party (party supplies)

Mad About ... Parties


(This is a continuation of the Tiki Party post. I decided to break it up into several posts to make it a little more manageable. The original post was dated December 14 and can, quickly, be found in Labels under "Parties.")



Party Supplies
This is another fun way to express yourself; consider whatever your theme is and emphasis it with your supplies. This also cuts down on expenses - there's no reason to blow your budget on tons of pricey decorations, if you don't have a lot to spend. Let the little details speak for you.


Plates
You can use regular china if you like, especially if it's a smaller gathering, but it's recommended that you go for paper plates. Try to find the sturdiest plates available and match the color/pattern to your theme. As for size, it's always better to err on the side of smaller; if you are doing a buffet, you can opt for regular sized plates, but if it's just nibbles and canapés, stick with smaller cocktail plates. And always buy extra - people like to throw away their plates or forget them somewhere.

Napkins
Cloth napkins are an elegant option but, again, reserve those for smaller gatherings. Simple and sturdy is all you really need. If you like, you can match the color or design. If your plates match the theme, you napkins don't really need to - and visa verse. However, if you want to go all out, then by all means - do so! Going over-board is perfect for something like a "Tiki Party." Sizing is the same as plates - make sure they are equal to each other. And, yes, buy more than you think you'll need.

Cups
While glass sounds like it could be fun, it's not. You don't want to be washing every glass you own for hours after the party - and you don't want to clean up the inevitable broken glasses. So, even for smaller gatherings, opt for plastic. Not those horrible red plastic cups - those just scream "frat party/date rape." No, a nice clear plastic is just fine. Most craft or party supply stores offer a wide variety of styles, including cocktail and champagne flutes. Again, how crazy you want to get is up to you, but it's always good to have some simple 4-6 ounce glasses.

Cutlery
This all depends on if you are actually going to need it. As I suggested above, finger foods are the best choice for parties. So consider toothpicks as part of "cutlery." You can find all sorts of fun toothpicks at party supply stores, boutiques (like Cost Plus) and even your grocery store. Look for some with different colors, designs carved into them, and some that are made of unique material, like bamboo. Buy tons - and I mean tons. You will never have enough. Now, if you do need cutlery, get plastic - it's easy and disposable. There are a lot of options when it comes to plastic - clear, plain white and a variety of colors. I suggest clear since it goes with anything. Even if you are serving with toothpicks, have a box of plastic cutlery on hand just in case someone asks for a fork, knife or spoon.

Tablecover
Essential. The last thing you want to worry about is cleaning your own table cloth or the table beneath it, later on. Stash your everyday table cloth and use one purchased specifically for the party; if it gets ruined you can throw it out and be done with it. Basic white is always nice, same with a crisp black - but do whatever you like, especially if there is a specific theme. Pick up a plastic table cover as well and tape it to your table, then cover with the cloth.
Tableskirting (optional)
These are totally optional. They look nice and are pretty fancy but are hardly essential. If you do get one, they are best for more elegant gatherings and should be in solid colors.

Serving Accessories (bowls, trays, utensils, doilies)
If you have your own selection of serving accessories, by all means, break them out! Now is the time to show off your wears. And even though you may not think you do, you probably have some stuff that will suffice. The important thing is to take stock of what you need. Think about the dishes and how you want to serve them, then look at what you have. If your cupboards are bare, then go shopping. But I don't suggest buying disposable here - instead, go to your local Goodwill store or a second-hand shop and find something fun. It's also perfectly acceptable to ask friends if you can borrow things.
A word on doilies: they are, as a rule, terrible. But they serve a purpose; lay down a doily, place mat, etc. and you instantly add flair to your table. They help with spills, too. Just know that, here, "doily" is an all-purpose word and can mean any sort of place mat.

Candy/Nut Cups
I will elaborate more on including nuts, candies, fruit, etc. on your menu, but for now you should just remember that they will be served. Have enough small-ish bowls to set around your space, so people can reach out and grab a snack. They can be simple white or really fun and creative - matching the theme of your party. A fun alternative to basic bowls are vintage ash trays. When my grandmother gave up smoking, she had a fantastic collection of these weird, colorful, metal ash trays and she would put candy in them.

Place Cards (optional)
These may seem a little formal, but they are actually very helpful. A basic card stock is more than fine, in white, with the name of the dish neatly printed on it. You can add a fun little design to the side, but keep it simple; people will be reading the card to see what the name of the dish is and if they can't see the name then what's the point? They are also helpful because it keeps guests from asking you repeatedly what's on the table. Making some notation of whether or not the dish is vegetarian, Kosher, etc. is a nice touch.


If you think of anything else that you may need, make sure to write it down so you don't forget to pick it up.
Buy everything you need a week before the party, but leave it in it's packaging. If you happen to see something else that you like in the mean time, you can always buy that and return it's original. Check off everything once you buy it, so you know what you have and what you still may need to buy. Keep in mind: the more organized you are, the easier things will go for you. Besides, it hardly takes more than a few minutes to jot down a list and check things off of it.

Pauvre de moi!

Ugh. Just ... ugh.

I've been sick for awhile and have only begun to get better. Added to that: my internet took a dump for almost a week. It's fine now. Everything is fine now. Fine. Fine. Fine! I just dislike all these pauses in productivity. And I'm no help to myself - I've got Conan on in the background and it's making it hard to concentrate.

But I'd like to just get back into it and finish out "Men's Week" and keep rolling along.

Tuesday, January 4, 2011

Books - "Sterling's Gold"

If you follow the fantastic TV show Mad Men, then you are aware of Roger Sterling's autobiography. Many ad men at the time (the 1960's, duh) wrote autobiographies or "tell alls" detailing their time in Madison Avenue advertising agencies. But most of those men were the creative types - like Don Draper. Roger, on the other hand, was an account executive and spent most of his time keeping clients happy. His position as Senior Partner of Sterling Cooper came later in life and was practically handed to him by way of his father. Coming from old money, Roger lived an entitled life, spoiled by his position in society.
This made for some great stories. And, sadly, none are here in this book. The few snippets we heard during various episodes had me chomping at the bit. Occasionally we are treated to excerpts from Roger's life but for the most part, this is a book of quotes. Good quotes but quotes nonetheless.

Reading the book, you are treated to:
"When a man gets to a point in his life when his name's on the building, he can get an unnatural sense of entitlement."


"I'll tell you what brilliance in advertising is: 99 cents. Somebody thought of that."

"My dad used to say, 'This is the greatest job in the world except for one thing - the clients.' "

Roger's view on the art of seduction.
"See her this weekend. You hit it off? Come turkey day, maybe you can stuff her."

"Remember, when god opens a door, he opens a dress."

Roger's views on drinking.
"You don't know how to drink. Your whole generation. You drink for the wrong reasons. My generation? We drink because it's good. Because it feels better than unbuttoning your collar. Because we deserve it. We drink because it's what men do."

"We can solve this problem with a flask."


Roger's views on business ethics.
"I try to be as civilized as you can be."

"Since when is forgiveness a better quality than loyalty."

Roger's views on women.
"I like redheads. Their mouths are like drops of strawberry jam in a glass of milk."

If anything, you'll learn some fun bon mots to drop at your next cocktail party or around the office. But I don't suggest you run out and buy a copy right away. At $16.95 it's not a very good deal. But the novelty factor is pretty great (the cover is an exact replica of that in the show) but you're better off ordering it on Amazon or simply waiting till it goes on sale.

Supplement

Since I completely pissed off and didn't post yesterday, you get an extra today. This is a cocktail recipe from Ricky the Bartender and is for everyone. But, guys? Make a batch for your next holiday shin-dig and you will be a hero.

Cocktails - Hot Buttered Rum

With the nights growing quite chill (and here in southern California, rather damp), it's time we turn to comfort. And what's more comforting than a warm cocktail? Maybe two. Make a batch and cuddle up with someone special. And if there's no one special enough, call over some friends!

This kind of retro drink goes so far back we find ourselves outside of the current century. But that's OK; it's a classy concoction and we are all about class. And rum.
The history of this drink is ... odd. In the later half of the 1800's America was divided by many things, alcohol was one of them. In the south it was whiskey (unless you were a plantation owner, then it was imported French brandy and the like). Rye was the poison of choice in New York, Pennsylvania, Delaware and Maryland. New Jersey - applejack. New Orleans - brandy. Out west it was every man for himself. Ohio and the newer Midwest states were stoking the flames of prohibition. This leaves New England.
It was rum or get out of town. And who can blame them? The history of their rum trade is a sordid story and I'm not going to get into the particulars here - just Google "Triangle Trade" and you'll get an eye-full.
Anyway, whatever wasn't exported they drank. They drank it anyway they could - hot, cold, straight, mixed. They drank it with water, juice, sugar, other boozes and all manner of Christmas spices. They even drank it with egg, milk, cream, and - yes - butter. Why? Still not sure. Charles Browne claims it's there to lubricate the mustache. Either way, it's a hot toddy - meant to warm you during the cold months. Even today, most New Englanders will tout the medicinal properties of rum. And who are we to argue?

1 quart of ice cream
1 pound of butter
1 pound of brown sugar
1 pound confectioner's sugar
3-4 Tbsp ground clove
3-4 Tbsp ground allspice
3-4 tsp fresh grated nutmeg
1 bottle of Meyer's gold rum
1/2 bottle of Rose Angel tequila (gran centenario)

Just add hot water and you're golden!

Sunday, January 2, 2011

Seuls les hommes

This week is all about men. But, ladies, please feel free to take a peek. I think it's very important that members of the opposite sex know something about each other. There should be a little mystery, of course. But a solid grasp is nice. Anyway. Yes, this week is all about men - what they are wearing (or should be), what they are drinking (or should be), what they might want to be reading, and a few other things.
This also marks the first week I will have an original concoction for you, from Ricky the Bartender. It will most assuredly be a manly cocktail. I'm going to re-edit some of the previous posts, so you might want to give them another gander.

I hope your holidays were fun-filled and soaked in gin! I know mine were.